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August 13, 2010

The Journey

Filed under: Short Stories — admin @ 11:02 pm

1960

The Journey

Jonah thought of the end of his journey. The thought made him happy. He was as certain of its ending as he was of the sun which burned his eyes and lined the day’s blue light with gold.

Dragonflies whirred overhead. The quiet flow of the river was broken by intermittent flashes of green and blue which disappeared almost as immediately as they came. The life of the riverbank was a comfort to Jonah. The only creatures who appeared as discomforting strangers were the frogs, giant croaking beings who appeared fearless of his slow movement, stared at him with cold, unblinking eyes. If the frogs had resisted him, had registered concern at his appearance, it would have been something he knew and could understand, might have been a kind of safety. But they were strangers and they did not care.

Jonah felt the security of his paper sack. He tried to ignore the unblinking eyes that disturbed him. There was bread and cheese and fruit in the lunch which Hannah had prepared and he had a bottle of fresh water. The food made him think of Joseph and Hannah and their kindness. They had taken him in a few years ago, had become his family, loved him as one of their own, even though the county paid for his keep, and that was the reason they had taken him.

No one in the town had ever been unkind to Jonah, but except for Joe and Hannah, he could detect the edge of an indifference which spoke of the fact that he did not really belong, that he was a stranger. Life in a small Southern town in the 1930s was mainly a matter of survival for sharecroppers like Joe and Hannah. People’s emotions arose like slabs of concrete, exhausted them, were generally meant to settle issues of importance, like money or sex. Jonah had seen more than one fight over a woman. For ordinary feeling, there was little expression. Even Joe could not say things easily, although that did not matter, because he knew that Joe and Hannah really cared about him. When Jonah had talked about lying about his age and going into the army, Joe only said, “I unrest’ boy”, and put his old but still strong arms around him and held him close, furtively wiping his eyes with his big red handkerchief.

While he lived with Joe and Hannah, Jonah had listened and gathered whatever facts he could from the talk of people in town. It was not that they talked often of him, or that he was a matter of any importance, but through careful listening, he managed to discover the name of the man people believed was his father. He had heard that his father was working now in a logging camp at the mouth of the river, that he had a job cutting down trees and stacking them on the barges which floated downriver to the sawmill. It was an impressive job, one which men would fight to get, so that Jonah felt pride welling inside him, pride for the father he did not even know, that he should have a job other men envied. So Jonah had to make a journey, this journey that would take him to where he belonged, to his place. Hannah had warned him against expecting too much. “You musn’ be so sure he wants to see you, boy”, she warned, the wrinkles at the corners of her cloudy eyes turning downward with concern. But she knew he could not listen. Despite Hannah’s warning, he was certain of all he would find at the end of the river. As he walked along its bank now, a voice inside him began to sing.

He was not tired but the shade of an overhanging tree, like everything else today, beckoned invitingly to him. Its branches were large, the ground beneath it still cool and moist, resilient with morning dew. He reclined beneath it, closing his eyes against the only threat he would not allow to enter—the motionless stare of the unblinking frogs at the water’s edge.

His eyes floated lazily across the clear sky as his mind floated across the days he had lived until now. Here, on this journey, he could afford to think of them, for it was almost as if they had a purpose. His journey, his life that had been, would have an end, one that would be as perfect, as comforting as this summer day.

Memories drifted in hazy succession, like the clouds in the sky, moved into one another, blended, became indistinguishable, only certain bold ones drawing attention, like the silver and rainbow scaled fish that broke the silence of the river and flashed light for a moment before falling back again through the motionless, colorless air.

His earliest recollection was of a home, a place with many children and he was only one. A woman stood out clearly in his mind, a woman who bathed, clothed and fed him. But he could not remember seeing any emotion toward himself on her face. She screamed at the other children, even struck and beat them on occasion, but never him. Not that he had ever deserved to be struck—for he recalled with justice that he was too quiet to be of any trouble to anyone. He learned to understand that he did not belong with them. Once when an overpowering emotion had compelled him to throw his arms around this woman as she prepared him for bed, she thrust him from herself, as if repulsed, then hastily covered him against the night’s cold. He had huddled under the covers obediently and listened to the sound of her voice berating her own children while they secretly laughed. A cold, black stillness crept inside him. The thought of finding his own family, of belonging to someone the way these people belonged to each other was the dream awake which always put him to sleep. There was a clock on the wall with a light that was friendly toward him and he often fell asleep staring at the hands which glowed in the dark, as if speaking to him of permanence, telling him their glow would be there to greet him each night.

Jonah later learned that his mother had died, that his father had left him with this woman who was his father’s sister. He had been very small and he did not stay long with his aunt and his cousins, but even now, Jonah could not recall that his aunt had ever spoken a word to him except the necessary commands and directions for each day.

From that point his memories became clearer. He was sent to a place where there were only boys, boys of all ages. There was a school there and he had learned many things—to read and write and, in a class called geography, some things about the world. Learning to read was a key to himself. Whenever he found time to read, he did, because the world and the things in it fascinated him. Most of what he learned, he learned himself, because the teachers at the school were not interested in any unusual effort, wanted only for their day to end so they could leave.

The most important thing he learned was that he could not be himself. He learned to read in secret and to speak little to the others of his interests. He learned to avoid violence when he could, but when he could not, he learned to be violent.

He met a boy named Todd who became his friend, taught him about the pleasures his own body could give, that it could comfort him, be his friend even when Todd was not there. His hands thrust over the warmth hidden inside his pants, stroking the firmness which was himself dispelled loneliness, assured him that he need never be completely alone. Most of the time, Todd and he were inseparable but the other boys did not tolerate this easily. They were jealous of the tie he and Todd had. Later Todd became very possessive and it was not easy for Jonah to dispel his advances, so he often submitted, not unwillingly, but passively, to ward off unwelcome violence from his friend. Others also sought him, were more threatening, so he learned of the power of other kinds of passion, that it could be harsh, could cause more pain than pleasure, could make it impossible for him to refuse, to be himself. To belong to them meant at least peace and there was always the quiet moment when he could be alone and use the knowledge he had learned of his body in his own way. With coaxing and a quiet rhythm, he could bring his body to its final outburst. He learned every nuance, every movement of himself there was to know, so that even now, under the safety of this giant tree, at least he had himself.

From the boys’ home, he had gone to live with Joe and Hannah. There he met Laura, a girl who also came from the county and who had lived with Joe and Hannah for many years. When the county stopped paying for her, Laura just stayed on, helping Hannah with some of the things she could no longer do. Laura was shy, probably because her face had been left scarred from a childhood bout with some sickness but she was kind and Jonah never thought of her scars when he looked at her. With Joe and Hannah, she was Jonah’s only family, even though Jonah knew it was only a temporary one.

Now Joe and Hannah and Laura were gone. He had left them, had only himself to rely on again. But soon that would be over. The end of the journey would first bring him to his father who would help him, then would lead to other things, things which would show him that everything Laura told him was true. Without words or formal talk, she had taught him that he was inadequate for himself. “It’s not good to be by yourself”, she would say aloud, as much to herself as to him. “Everyone needs someone for lovin’”. He knew she was telling him that his body could sing louder, could vibrate more deeply with someone who loved him, and that he also could give the gift of this pleasure to someone else. He would love someone, sometime, Laura’s unspoken prediction told him. Perhaps he had loved Laura but he knew she would have said he didn’t, that she would have talked to him like a mother, even though only six or seven years—no one was sure—separated them, that she would tell him she was too old and he must discover many more things about himself before he could love that way. He believed Laura, knew that he would discover, would learn.

Because Laura was very smart, was studying to be a schoolteacher. She had given him books to read. Some were poetry books and he even found that he liked best the same ones she liked. They talked for long hours, sometimes of sad and serious things, sometimes of joyful things. Sometimes she was playful, would hit him lightly over the head and he knew there would never be anyone who would be his love in the same way again. Now, embraced and sheltered by the arms of this powerful tree, he thought of a line from something by someone named Edna St. Vincent Millay in one of the poetry books. It reminded him of the things Laura had meant but did not know how to say, that a woman sought “A man’s bared breast to curl inside”—or something like that. That was the way it was meant to be between men and women. A man and a woman.

Before he left, he learned something which did not surprise him. Laura belonged to someone, a man she knew from school and who was certainly much smarter than Jonah was. She became engaged to be married to this man and when Jonah saw them together, he was able to watch them without jealousy, could see everything Laura had talked about. Their love was like another person he could almost see standing beside them, a person alive and real, whom they shared. Each word, each touch, each look, was a message from this powerful person standing there, a message taking form in, settling into, becoming the secret intimacies he was allowed to observe. No, he could never return to Laura, but she had explained to him how unnecessary that was. It did not matter. His father was waiting; they would have a life together that would bring more life, all the other parts of life to Jonah, more happiness to them both.

Jonah began to walk again. The memory of Laura and the peace of nature which surrounded him here continued to assure him. The transparent river, the steady rays of the powerful sun, the birds that halted suddenly in midair before diving into the water like bullets—all would lead him to the end of the journey and the one who would help him, to his own, his father.

Laura had a record player and several records she had received as gifts from her fiancée. Once she played a melody for him which she explained was an aria from an opera by a man named Puccini. Jonah did not understand the language of the words, but the music ran through his mind now, its sorrowful beauty fitting into this perfect day like the last piece of a puzzle. The aria was entitled “O my beloved daddy”. Jonah hummed it to the sounds of the woods, sounds which enclosed him like soft walls. He hummed it as slowly, as deliberately as the green leaves of the trees parted, then re-settled, as he passed them by. “O my beloved daddy”—that was the secret. He must first belong to his own. Then love between himself and another would drift in as naturally as one season followed another. He did not know his father, had never seen him, but it did not matter what he was, what he did. They were flesh of flesh and they belonged together.

He was not very hungry, but he came to a bend in the river, where he found a shelter created by a slight depression in the earth and a canopy of trees. Light filtered through the dense roof of foliage, scattered itself like jagged pieces of glass across the deepening shade. He decided to eat before he continued his journey. It would not be very long now, only several more miles, and he might not find another place of such solitude. He opened his bag and ate slowly as he watched a family of beavers construct their dam from pieces of wood and stone and grass at the water’s edge. They did not seem to mind his presence, as if sensing that he did not mind theirs. But he had never known that frogs could be as huge as these, or that their unblinking eyes could annoy him so. They were colorless creatures unless one peered carefully at them, which he had no desire to do, although he could see one which was almost close enough for him to touch as it flicked its long tongue like a snake into the air at its prey. He picked up a stone and threw it at the ugliness which disturbed, resonated within him like a bad dream he could not forget. The creature fled, but only further away to the safety of another rock from which it sat staring at Jonah—unmoving, ignorant and unafraid. Jonah turned his eyes away and finished his meal. Hannah had even wrapped him some fruit in a paper, so succulent that the paper became wet, his fingers and his mouth streaked with juice. He thought of Laura’s voice and her long fingers, of her face which he thought beautiful without remembering its scars, felt again his lack of rancor at the man who would have her forever.

He packed the remainder of his lunch in the paper sack and left his shelter, continuing his walk along the water’s edge, for the warmth of the day made the wetness feel cool and nourishing. A family of ducks waddled by unhurriedly and he threw scraps of his bread at them. They poked their silken heads lackadaisically at his offerings, as if life were not a frantic effort, but his gift was not rejected. With dignity, they pecked and swallowed, the large brown pools of their eyes bulging enormously, as if speaking gratitude for this unexpected generosity. They devoured each morsel. That pleased him. To give and to receive was to be alive. He also expected and received. The peace and life of the river was his; he was already a recipient. Shortly, he would receive the generosity of this journey’s end.

He found a bittern along the water’s edge that had become entrapped inside a mound of twigs and fallen branches. Its wing was damaged, hung limply at its side like a folded flag. He lifted the bird carefully from its trap and placed it in a nest of moss and mud in the crook of a tree branch, high enough so that it would be safe until it could fly again. He even managed to catch several small fish. The river was cold but clear so that when he plunged his hands in swiftly, quickly, he caught the fish easily. Deftly and assuredly, because it was necessary, he killed the fish with a rock, then placed them close to the bird so that it would not starve. The bird had trembled in his hands when he first lifted it, but now it seemed to relax in the nest, even though it continued to watch Jonah’s movements carefully. When the bird began to eat voraciously, he resumed his journey. He hoped that the bird’s wing would heal, but he did not look back. There was at least another mile to go.

His eyes could already see the bend of the river ahead which meant that the journey would soon be at its end and there would be other people to contend with. He thought of this somewhat sorrowfully, heard a small voice which he would not allow to speak remind him that he could not know, could not be as sure of the journey’s end as he was of the travel, of his life here along the river, this peace with himself. He could only be sure of one thing and that was his father. The loss of this solitude, this aloneness, was a small price to pay for the joy which lay ahead. In the old manner, he almost thrust his hands into the opening of his pants to allay his growing fear but then he remembered Laura and the music and the promise. He would settle for nothing less.

He began to hurry now, anxious to store the memory of the river and its beauty with the rest of his good things. He had a file in his mind for those good things. They were few in number. He could now add the memory of this journey to his memory of Laura and his time with her.

At the bend of the river, the sky still covered the earth with its blue. The trees still rustled their acknowledgement of his presence; the scurry of life around him did not cease, accepted his existence. It would be the same ahead as it was here, and as it had been. Joy overflowed. He was a vessel which could hold no more.

He turned at the river’s winding and stopped abruptly, his thoughts paralyzed with a rush of longing that washed over him like the water of the river now rushing to the source which was also its end. There he saw a group of men working on the logging project. The river had become a giant gluttonous creature, was being fed with sacrificial offerings, with flatboats piled high with wounded black trees. The barges floated down the ravenous water, reached the river’s mouth and the trucks waiting to carry them to a giant building where they would be shaken in gigantic baskets until they became naked. Amidst the endless screech of saws, the round white flesh would be fed into a powerful maw, digested, transformed. The air at the river’s mouth carried the unmistakable odor of newly-felled trees, but the air in the factory held the deeper sweetness of newly-cut planks. Sawdust floated upwards, then settled, incense blown to the sacrifice of the mute forest behind.

Jonah saw a team of seven men wrestling with the huge chainsaws and the giant trees which were their enemy, trees which demanded, because of their presence, to be cut down. The metallic clacking of the saws, the rocking of the trees as they fought to stay alive, then fell with a mighty thud, overcame the former peace of the river and its life.

He had no trouble knowing who his father was. A tall, burly man with not much expression in his face worked fiercely. A certain joy which seemed to preoccupy the others was missing in his face but the joy would be there shortly, Jonah was sure. He stood there for many minutes, observing, knowing he was a speck on the horizon, until the men saw him. The activity ceased, soundlessly, wordlessly. Some premonition of dread had invaded the air.

Jonah did not know how long he stood there, before daring to approach the one he knew was his own. The other men stepped aside as he came, seeming to know toward whom he was headed, then resumed their work, but this time more slowly, laboriously, as if in fear of the nameless omen which now surrounded them all, made them prisoners. No one spoke to Jonah.

He stood before his father. The men continued to work at sawing and felling trees, as if the screaming saws, the shudder of the earth each time a tree fell, would somehow dispel the unwelcome vision before them.

“Father,” he said softly, expectantly, but the saws continued. The man did not look up.

“Father”, he screamed. This time his voice was heard, the screaming of the saw overcome by his own. The man stopped and raised his eyes. Jonah gazed into the eyes searchingly. Something was missing. The eyes did not answer his own.
Finally, the man said, almost fiercely, “Whatcha want with me, boy?” “Father,” was all Jonah could reply. “I am here, to be with you.”

The man stared at him dumbly, as if this were some sort of joke. “Can’t be with me boy. No place for you here.”

“I can work. I can learn.” Jonah began to stammer. “I can do whatever you want and we can be together. I can help.”

“Nope”. The eyes met his again. It was not that his look was cruel, or angry; it was simply that some link which tied one person to another, even in ordinary conversation, was missing in those eyes. They were vacant, empty of concern, could concentrate only on what needed to be done. This interruption which had come upon him was a threat.

“But I am Jonah, your son”, he heard himself pleading.

“Know that. Don’ know why you came here though. I ain’t got nothin’ for you.”

“But we could be together, and I could help you—and you, you could help me.”

His father did not seem to hear. “Wouldn’ even be you, if it wasn’ for that damn woman. Her doin’, not mine.”

Jonah felt his insides begin to quake like the trees. “O my beloved daddy”, ran through his mind, crazily, mocking him as the river had mocked him. The sky seemed to be darkening and the faces of the men took on grotesque features, like ugly animals, black and motionless, chiseled from stone.
“Please”. As this last word broke from him, the man looked up at him again. “Go away, boy, don’ bother me no more, never no more. You ain’t none of mine. Ain’t nothin’ that is mine.” He began to laugh and walked over to a rock from behind which he drew a large brown bottle. He put the bottle to his mouth and began to drink, endlessly it seemed, the strong-smelling brown liquid running in rivulets down his bearded chin. He drank as if his thirst could never be quenched. “Hey guys”, he yelled angrily. “Kid here says he’s mine. Won’ go away.” He threw the bottle to one of the men who began to drink also. The bottle was passed around and they all began to drink. There was no work now, only a circle of men gathering around him, the smell of the whisky on their breath mingling with the wood smell in the air. His head reeled. He became nauseated. Their silent, staring faces became one with the black sky which stood by and witnessed everything, did nothing.

One man grabbed his arm. “Go away, kid, fast. He ain’t right. Ain’t none of them right now”. The men began to laugh. Underneath their wild laughter, Jonah could still hear the intermittent, disinterested croaking of the giant frogs.

His father stared at him again. In that moment, Jonah could see the hatred growing. His father was no longer an uninterested person, but even anger was better than the total non-engagement which had first sat in those eyes. Jonah stood rooted to the ground, as if chained. “Dumb, ain’t you, boy,” his father jeered. “Too dumb to know there ain’t no place for nobody.” He picked up a stone the size of a man’s fist and hurled it at Jonah. The blow struck him on the temple. Jonah could feel the blood trickle in a stream down his face and into his eyes but his feet had no ability to move. He knew some horrible dream had reached its climax, that some truth was working to break its way into his consciousness and he must see it to its end. Scenes of his first home, then the orphanage, then Joe and Hannah and Laura passed before his eyes rapidly, like a movie running at a ridiculous speed. The man picked up another stone. This time it struck Jonah in the shoulder and the pain was sharp, sharp enough to jar him to his senses. He found his ability to run, turned and ran up the course of the river, his head and his should throbbing with the feeling that was beginning to return. He felt two more blows strike his back, thrust his hands to his ears to muffle the sound of the mens’ laughter, ran until he could hear the laughter no longer, then fell exhausted on the black and murky moss at the river’s edge. The water of the river was unfriendly now, slapped against the banks, stared up at him, as if jeering, its surface waves covering the deeper darkness below,
Jonah lay for a long while, his body numb, his mind unable to form thought. Suddenly he became conscious of something staring at him. About a foot away stood the huge frog with its unfeeling eyes. It croaked loudly, stupidly, but did not move. Jonah crawled toward it slowly, deliberately.

Tears broke from his body in a torrent of release. With one thrust of his arm, he grabbed the frog. With one more quick movement, he twisted the creature’s head from its body and let it fall. The brackish brown blood that flowed from its deformed mass mingled with the red blood of Jonah’s own wounds in the darkened water. They moved together to form a stream, as if seeking each other out. The black water of the river carried away their stain–together, inseparable, eternal.

August 5, 2010

A Polish Christmas Eve

Filed under: My Writing — admin @ 10:25 pm

A Polish Christmas Eve

I have always wanted to remember and preserve something of the Polish customs I remember as a child at my grandmother’s house. One year, Sephanie, my daughter-in-law who understood this desire gave me a book entitled History of Poland and Polish Customs and Traditions.

The word vigil refers to the watch on the night before a feast, observed, my dictionary says, “as a day of spiritual preparation”. But I know this. Being raised as a Roman Catholic, I was surrounded by vigils, or maybe it just seems that way because the two most important vigils, Christmas and Easter, loom so large in my memory.

And so I read about the “Wigilia”, or Christmas Eve dinner. I tell my children I want to do the Wigilia and make it perfect and authentic. I read that I must serve many different foods, all of them simple and basic in their ingredients if not in their preparation—- flour, potatoes, mushrooms, fish, the kinds of foods I think must have been staples for peasants. For one night, the night our ancestors considered the holiest of the year, we will become as they were, poor peasants sitting together at the table, in the center of which rests only a small white cloth covered with straw.

It is impossible to prepare this feast alone, but that is not a problem. In my family, we have been eating some of these traditional foods for many years, though not in any formal way. My mother makes the pierogi which she has always made at Christmas and Easter and has mastered so well that it is discouraging for me to even think of trying to make them. But that is not really the truth. It is mostly because of the huge amount of work involved that I shrink from the task, a task that is becoming more difficult for my mother each year. She asks for my sister and I to learn how to make the pierogi so they will not be gone when she is gone, but neither my sister nor I volunteer to learn. Her call goes unheeded, until one day my daughter and my daughter-in-law express their desire to know. I am asked to believe that these young wives who have never ironed a shirt for their husbands are going to keep up this tradition, will devote hours of their time each holiday season to this heavy burden. So they say, and one year they go to help my mother at pierogi time. My daughter’s husband videotapes the entire procedure.

Pierogi can be described only as small pies, the outside of which are made of a white flour and sour-cream dough that must be mixed, then chilled, then rolled out and cut into circles, the dough having become heavy and recalcitrant with the waiting and the chilling. It turns into a powerful mass that will not cooperate but must be subdued by strong arm muscles, a man’s work, really, except that a woman’s infinite patience and attention to detail are required, at least the way my mother does it. The circles of dough are filled with various fillings—cheese or sauerkraut, raisins or potatoes, even apricots or mushrooms, then crimped shut with the fingers and boiled in a huge pot until they rise to the surface like little white boats. Hopefully none will spring leaks at the seams, the mark of one’s skill being how many break or do not break open, lose or do not lose their contents in the boiling. The pierogi are cooled, will be fried later in a small amount of butter until sizzly brown and slightly crisp, then topped with sour cream. If you wish, you can fry and eat them right away, if it does not happen that, as the cook who has been wrestling to bring this creation to life, you have lost all desire to eat them, the reward being the delight you know others will have in the eating.

My mother also makes the kapusta, a sweet-and sour cabbage in which the exact vinegar-sugar flavoring is crucial and the placek, a sweet bread with a crumb topping.

I make the beet dish. And the mushroom soup, which I think is the crowning glory.

No one in my family has ever made the mushroom soup. My mother tells me that she tried once and it failed. Then I know for certain that I must make it. First I think for about a week, planning how I will do it. The cookbook says it is important to have a good stock, and recommends making your own, so of course I must do that. I find it difficult to find soup-bones. I am told by several butchers that, for some economic reason I am not sure I understand, all beef is now shipped boneless

I finally get bones in a supermarket where I place a special order. The beef bones must first be scraped and baked at a very high temperature, until every bit of hidden meat has been purged, fallen off like variously-shaped dried slivers. Then they are placed into a large pot of water. Carrots and onions are chopped and added to the water. Even the crackly skins of the onions, according to the cookbook, need to be used because they add to the brown color. Then everything is boiled for twelve hours.

For me, the boiling becomes the mystical part. I know that what I am doing is being done in the most elemental and thorough way, and that there will never exist a soup such as this, the bones, in giving up every bit of life they contain, becoming something other than what they are. It is a distillation of essences, the essence of life turned into more life, then a giving of that life to those you love. The bones continue to boil, turning the water into broth, with me tending carefully, observing and stirring periodically. The air in the house becomes more pungent with each passing hour, takes on a characteristic fragrance, not delicate or exquisite, but solid, unashamed, the vegetables, like the bones, giving up all their life to become a part of the new thing.

After the boiling is finished, I pour the stock through a cloth so that only the rich amber liquid, an elixir, comes through. The spent vegetables are discarded, their life already captured, their hulls empty. Then come the mushrooms, which I have also hunted to find, special dried European mushrooms that are “reconstituted”, which means they must be soaked in water, until they open into craggy, wrinkled heads. These are not the mushrooms I am used to seeing –small gold buttons—, but dark-brown, rough and strong-tasting umbrellas of flesh, carrying sand and sediment, like the forest. I slice and add them to the stock. I add carrots and potatoes and green beans, also the barley which has been cooked and is waiting, barley that has exploded in its boiling water into a mass of soft beads, beads turned slightly golden by the butter which I slide effortlessly into their steamy warmth.

And so the mushroom-barley soup is my masterpiece.

We have nine different foods. Some say there must be seven, some say nine and some eleven. I compromise. There must be a beet dish I choose a casserole of beets and onions and apples. There must be Christmas cookies, or pierniki, that seem like traditional cut-out cookies with white icing and colored sugars, but are not the same. They are made with honey, begin with a tablespoon of sugar that must first be carmelized by melting and stirring it in a large frying pan until it is brown and bubbly. I lose the first try with the sugar because it begins to fry, turns overly brown and tastes burned, and I know that must be wrong. So I begin again and watch carefully this time, stopping the frying/melting at exactly the right moment when it has not a delicate but a pronounced caramel taste so the tablespoon of sugar will permeate the entire batch.

But the cookie dough is not easy to work with. I chill it overnight, adding more flour until it can be rolled, wondering if I have done something wrong or if Polish peasant women were just better at the skills of baking than I am. I buy the bread from a Polish bakery, never having baked bread in my life and knowing there is not sufficient time now to learn. It is rye bread with caraway seeds, a combination of textures, a firm brown crust and a soft middle.

The fruit dish is to be made from dried fruits, like apricots, raisins or prunes,
all soaked overnight in sugar water and flavored with lemon juice, grated lemon rind and a touch of brandy. My sister takes this job but she cheats, bringing a creation of canned pears in a rum sauce, delectable but not authentic. I tell her that this does not seem like a peasant dish to me. We laugh.

I am confused because the Polish tradition says this is to be a meatless meal. This rule survives from the days when important feast days of the liturgical year, like Christmas Eve, were considered days of abstinence. Yet my friend tells me that salt pork is one of the customary Wigilia foods. Perhaps like all the other customs we think have always existed in the form we know them, this tradition has been tampered with along the way. Whether because of necessity or carelessness, bastardization occurs. So it is that being Polish-American means being “tampered with”, being not quite authentic, like a quick visit to the “old” world before returning to the “new”. Next year I will wrestle with the question of serving the salt pork and the groats.

I buy the fish on the morning of Christmas Eve, so that it will be fresh—.
fleshy pink-and-white catfish filets, to be broiled with butter and lemon just as the meal is beginning.

On Christmas Eve the centerpiece on the table—a white napkin with a sprinkling of straw— represents the manger, soon to be filled with the Christ Child. There is an empty place and an empty chair at the table for any in the family who have died in the past year. The tradition says they will be here in spirit to share the vigil with us.

For me, this night is a night of love. I spread the table with a white cloth, so that we think of the snow and the cold outside the manger. The candles are also white, but I alternate red and green napkins, so that we are reminded of the coming festivities, of life that thrives despite snow and cold, of the nobility of the evergreen and the holly, spreading their branches, offering themselves to the sky, in love, like the Child who comes to offer His love.

The Wigilia is not only food, but like important things human, begins with the sharing of food. The most important part of the tradition, I think, is the breaking of the “oplatek”, or unleavened bread. This breaking begins either with the oldest member of the family or the father of the house. My mother has the honor of beginning. She offers the bread to the next oldest person, my husband, who breaks off three pieces to eat. As she offers the bread, my mother speaks her wishes for health, prosperity and happiness to my husband. My husband then turns to the next person at the table and offers his wishes as they break off three pieces of the flat white wafer. This continues around the table until everyone has been The wishes, or blessings, become very personalized, specific

The important part of the Christmas Vigil is that the family is together and does things to mark the feast. After dinner, I suggest we sing carols. My grown sons protest. They will not sing. I smile inside. I know they think they are too sophisticated for that but some of us go to Midnight Mass together where we certainly do sing, loud and robustly. I think of all my family—my mother, my husband, my children, my small grandchildren.. My heart swells, soars higher than the notes of the music.

I know it will not be possible to keep this tradition for long. My children’s families are expanding. They all live in different cities, some twelve hours away by car. Soon they will need to be home on Christmas morning, with their children waking in their own home, running to their own tree to see what Santa has left. Customs will be further diluted as we are absorbed into the blanket of American culture. I can’t know if anything will be taken from tonight’s experience, if any of it will be remembered by my children. I hope it will.

June 27, 2010

Prologue

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March 1, 2010

For the love of August

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For the Love of August                                                                                                                   by Geraldine Wierzbicki-Roach

 

 

I am an animal lover but I had more than the usual feeling for Augie Doggie, my son’s golden Labrador, when we first met and I read the language in his large brown eyes. Subsequent events validated my initial feeling.

When my son and his wife were awaiting the birth of their third baby, they were simultaneously moving to a new home in Baltimore. As it is for most present-day grandmothers, my son and his family live in a city distant from me.  I welcomed the chance to spend time with my grandchildren. Sophie and Gerald, who are 3 and 2 years old. I was called into service and was there on the very day the moving vans were unloading.

We know now what we did not know for the first years of Sophie’s life. We can look back and explain behavior that at the time we had no way of understanding. Sophie, my son’s oldest child, is autistic. I don’t think she had been diagnosed at that time and it was difficult to know how to cope with whatever it was we were facing. We are since much more educated. Sophie attends an excellent school system and is progressing very well.

Behind Bob and Stephanie’s (my daughter-in-law) new home was a lovely woods, stands of tall trees penetrated by shafts of sunlight, a floor matted with years of leaves and pine needles and numerous treasures of uprooted trees and large rocks that served well as mountains to be climbed. Our “forest” was contained in a fragile silence broken at intervals by the rustle and scurry of hidden life, the song of birds and the lazy gliding of leaves through the air.  Best of all, if you walked to the end of one of its paths, there was a paddock for several horses.

I remember the “busyness” of that first day in the new house.  There was so much activity — moving vans in the driveway, furniture being carried through rooms, the constant call of directions—- that the two children, fully armed with carrots for the horses, were happy to go for a walk through the woods with me.

 

Sophie, Gerald and I embarked on our hike, accompanied, as always, by Augie Doggie. After we had fulfilled our obligation to the horses, even managing to crawl beneath the wire fence to view them up close and touch their soft noses, we resumed our walk. Each of the children became involved in their own discoveries. I fashioned a lovely walking stick from a fallen branch Gerry brought me and, despite the multiple sclerosis that can be a nuisance, was able to keep up very well, needing to rest on a fallen branch or tree trunk only occasionally.  The children looked under rocks for anything that looked the least bit spooky, loaded themselves with unusual stones, and called to each other to view their discoveries. Augie Doggie was never far. Although he sometimes ran ahead, he stopped and waited for us when we lagged too far behind. His presence could always be detected by the sound of crunching twigs beneath his feet, or his barking at anything threatening, like the squirrels. They continued to nibble nonchalantly at whatever they held between their paws,  as they looked down at him from their safe perches in the high branches, as if to say, “Boy, how dumb can you be”.

Then we happened upon a real find, a small stream of water meandering in zig-zag fashion to an end that was out of sight, whereupon the activity of choice became throwing stones over and into the stream. Augie ran after stones and brought them back, did a great deal of splashing and sniffing and generally became covered with mud.

We stood together at the stream’s edge. Suddenly, Gerald stumbled into the half-inch of barely moving water and his howls, emanating more from indignation than injury, were enough, I am sure, to be heard by any creature who had been unaware of our presence. I was obliged to rescue my fallen comrade and turned my head for a moment to retrieve and comfort him. When I turned around, Sophie and Augie Doggie were gone.

 

My cries rang through the forest, bounced off the canopy of trees and returned.  Dragging Gerald behind me, I hunted  frantically along the various paths we had traveled but there was no sign of her anywhere. I had to face the prospect of returning to the house and telling my daughter-in-law that I’d lost her child. She came with me and we further combed the woods together. Until we had to gave up. Stephanie called my son to ask what we should do. I remember distinctly that the first question he asked was whether Augie Doggie was with Sophie. Then he told Stephanie to call the police.

It is characteristic of autism that a child lacks normal fear. I don’t know why Sophie ran away, or what distance she had run, but it was very far, I believe, because I had never seen the border of the woods, nor, for that matter, heard any traffic. She ran clear through the woods until she reached the end and arrived at the highway, where she began walking on the side of the road. Augie Doggie was with her every step of the way. Witnesses said he had been “clipped” in the rear by an auto, or autos, but would not move out of the way of the traffic, would not leave Sophie’s side. When motorists saw a small child and a dog walking in traffic, some tried to help, stopped to ask Sophie her name and where she lived. She wouldn’t respond.

Truth be known, even if Sophie had responded, she didn’t know where she lived

My son and his family were barely settled. Most people in the neighborhood were probably not even aware that a new family had moved in, and if someone was aware, they certainly couldn’t have known the new family’s name. The police “investigation” somehow led to the mailman who knew a new family had moved into the neighborhood because he had seen the moving van, and delivered mail with a new name to the house . He was able to tell the police the address.

Sophie was transported home in the back seat of a police car. Augie, I guess, found his own way home. Sophie’s mother and I— I should really say her mother, because I was trying to fade inconspicuously into the background when Stephanie was receiving her reaming—were given a stern lecture from the officer in charge on the importance of supervising children properly. The neighborhood newspapers received word of the incident and I had the dubious distinction of being a celebrity. There were headlines announcing that “grandmother loses child in woods”. Or some such thing.

I only know that Augie Doggie was in the article also, as the dog who would not leave a small girl he considered his charge despite the danger to himself. Thankfully, his bumps had not injured him. After the incident was over, my  son told me how relieved he was when he learned that Augie Doggie was with his daughter.

Sophie was my oldest son’s first child and it was never difficult to see that she and Augie Doggie had a special relationship. They still do. Stephanie tells me that Sophie’s favorite toy is her doctor set and that Augie Doggie is very patient as he has his blood pressure taken repeatedly and his imaginary injuries bandaged.

From what I have seen, Augie Doggie has always been patient but life is more difficult for him now. Although he still chases and fetches the sticks we throw into the water when we are on vacation, managing to triumph over some pretty big ocean waves, he is not the same dog he was when he and I first met.  But then, neither am I.  He has severe arthritis, has difficulty raising his hindquarters off the floor and moves very slowly. The bittersweet truth of life’s ending must be faced and I know Bob and Stephanie will not allow Augie Doggie to suffer needlessly.

He will not be there when we are on our family vacations. He will not sit beside me at dinnertime and receive my scraps of food,  will not  run through the woods and splash in the water, will not chase sticks into the ocean as if he were a motorboat, will not  warn us about the dangerous squirrels lurking nearby and, the biggest loss of all, will not be there to love the children, especially a little girl who finds something in him, as he does in her, that the less initiated of us do not understand.

I use  a prayerbook that contains prayers written by people of many faiths and nationalities. One I love, probably a translation, is entitled “Reunion”, by Francis Jammes, a French poet who lived from 1968 to 1938.  It is only four lines:

 

O God, my Master, should I gain the grace

To see you face to face when life is ended,

Grant that a little dog, who once pretended

That I was God, may see me face to face.

 

For me, there is one obvious inaccuracy in this poem. Augie Doggie is not a

“little” dog. His body is big. But in no measure is it as big as his heart.

December 23, 2009

Amazon.com: Thus Bound: The story of Tadziu and Marysza (9781598588774): Geraldine Wierzbicki-Roach: Books

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By Karen Murray (Albany, NY) – See all my reviews

I was carried away instantly by this moving book, from its first tragic pages to the poignant and lovable characters throughout the story. Geraldine Wierzbicki-Roach takes us back to a time and place brought vividly to life by her beautiful, evocative writing and keen knowledge of the Polish immigrant experience. This novel gives insight into characters who live on the fringes and draw their greatest strengths,and suffer their deepest heartaches, from the ties of love and family.

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5.0 out of 5 stars excellent Christmas present, December 11, 2009

By GERALDINEWIERZBICKIROACH “literary” (buffalo ny) – See all my reviews

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Thus Bound: The story of Tadziu and Marysza

I believe my book would appeal to mature readers of both sexes. The book begins in the years of the Great Depression and continues to the years of the Vietnam war. Older readers will remember their parents talking about the poverty and hardships of that time. Middle-aged and younger readers will recognize the poverty , joblessness and homelessness that wrack our country today despite officials telling us this is not a depression.

Both sexes could be captured by the book since every plot event is seen through two sets of eyes–those of the male protagonist and those of the female. Things seen become thoughts and thoughts become interpretations, interpretations which the reader can asess as he/she listens to the voices speak in the stream-of-consciousness manner introduced into English novels in this century.

The children on the cover are children of Polish ancestry who meet in grade school and fall in love though they do not understand their feelings yet This early encounter will direct the course of their lives.

Marysza is orphaned in infancy when her father dies and her mother cannot face the physical and emotional poverty of life without her husband. Tadziu, the eldest of five children, is beset by his father's violent temper and his mother's depression and

via Amazon.com: Thus Bound: The story of Tadziu and Marysza (9781598588774): Geraldine Wierzbicki-Roach: Books.

December 9, 2009

The perfect Christmas present

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You know, my book would make a perfect Chhristmas present for everyone, for older people who remember the hardships of the Great Depression, and those younger who are suffering through the depression our country is experiencing today The tribulations of poverty and hunger are not as far removed from America as we Americans would ike to believe.

The book would be perfect for anyone of Polish ancestry as well as those who enjoy being immersed in a culture that differs from their own. Yours truly.

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